Gays.com member Oscar High is currently working and studying in his home country of Costa Rica. For his first post for us, he talks about a recent date he went on…
“I met this nice guy recently. He’s a close friend of my sister. It’s so funny; we’ve got a hundred things in common. We both have a Facebook account and I contacted him through this. After a few days chatting online, I got his phone number, and a week later I asked him out for a coffee and he agreed.
“It was a really nice day, with sunshine and showers; that’s normal at this time of the year in Costa Rica. We agreed to go to a popular restaurant near a beautiful park called La Sabana. After a yummy strawberry milkshake and a piece of apple pie with ice cream, we decided to walk through the park. The rain had already stopped and a beautiful orange sky guided our steps. The landscape was so pretty.
“We talked a lot and about everything and my eyes were open to every single detail; the shape of his lips, his tiny eyes and the sound of his voice. One smile, a look, a few words, another smile and a laugh; like an orchestra, our interactions were playing their own song.
“The weather, the landscape and this lovely guy kept my attention and let me ignore the looks from the people nearby, but it certainly stopped my impulse to touch his skin or to hug him in a different way. I felt insecure, like it is to be naked when it’s cold; I felt fear and discouragement to express myself in that way.
“The darkness came and we decided to walk. My hands brushed his and it was like a little electric shock. Then two guys in bicycles shouted at us: ‘Why don’t you both hold hands?’, like it was an insult. I just laughed and said to my friend, ‘Don’t worry, just ignore them’. After all, we both live in a conservative Latin-American country.
“One smile, a look, a few words, another smile and a laugh; like an orchestra, our interactions were playing their own song”
“The day ended after we realised that on a Sunday evening in Costa Rica there aren’t too many interesting things to do and walking around late at night is dangerous because of potential muggings. With a ‘thank you’ for this wonderful afternoon I said goodbye. I explained I wanted to do it again soon and held his hand hard, firmly making the promise to steal a kiss next time.
“Returning back home, questions and answers attacked my mind. Now I understand why in some countries LGBT people sometimes only meet in specific places and how your environment can transform how your behave all the time.
“I was restless and worried. How to change things? What to do? What makes me different? I want to express myself in whatever place I am. I’m a human being too, just like the billions of others out there. And then, I started to write these words…” •
Oscar is now dating the lovely Mario, but please check out his profile to say hi and make friends with him!
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