Tom Bartolomei (left), husband to drag star Vivian Von Brokenhymen, reckons you should *always* just tell it how it is. Are you the same… or do you always bite your tongue or bitch behind someone’s back instead?! Leave your comments at the end of his post!
You know the old saying “If you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all”? Well, I have a new one that I feel is even more appropriate: “If you don’t mean what you are saying, DON’T SAY IT!”
I’m extremely direct. I don’t believe in pulling my punches or beating around the bush. If I have something to say, I just say it. Some people like this, most people don’t. It‘s the cross I bear and to be honest I’m OK with it. I would rather be known for being real and genuine than being less than genuine; it’s the way I was raised.
Unfortunately there seems to be a lot of people in this world that think it is better to tell people what they think the person wants to hear. Rather than being real, they are – in my opinion – fake, and you know what? I just don’t have time for that.
I would rather someone be up-front and honest with me so I know where I stand with them instead of investing time and energy in what I thought was a friendship that in reality was not. Just because we know each other does not mean we have to be friends. In my opinion there is nothing wrong with being acquaintances.
Isn’t it better for both parties of any given interaction are on a level playing field instead of one being at a disadvantage and thinking there is more to that interaction?
Being real with everyone in my opinion is the right thing for everyone involved.
This blog post originally appeared on Diary of a Drag Queen’s Husband.