Dominance

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Just a cursory look online suggests that legions of guys are desperately seeking a big, bad Dom. But Gay Dominance is far more complex and varied than a few well-aimed slaps and a bit of verbal humiliation. And taken alone, a pair of Doc Martins simply won’t suffice. Gay Dominance is a serious business, psychologically and physically. Misconceptions abound and these can be dangerous. So strap yourself in and learn what a real, fulfilling Dom-sub relationship entails.

 It’s fair to say that the appalling Fifty Shades of Grey sanitises straight BDSM relationships. But fear not. Gays wrote the rule book on dominance eons ago. There are as many forms of Gay Dominance as there are desires. Choose from Daddy Doms, Sadist Doms, Owner Doms and even Financial Doms. Whatever the sub’s proclivities, he must understand that the Dom is in charge. The Dom leads. He dictates what happens. However, as with all BDSM, strict boundaries must be set. And this includes Safe Words.

Let’s start with what a Gay Dom is not. He is not aggressive. Neither is he into abuse. Think you’re always going to get your way as a Dom? No. A major part of your job is to satisfy your sub. And this means that you can’t be lazy. Gay Dominance requires heavy lifting from both partners. Otherwise, the dynamic falls as flat as a coked-up circuit queen's chopper after a 48-hour bender. To excel as a Dom you need a thorough understanding of the psychology of submission. Moreover, you must own your power. Practice patience. Be curious and kind. But always decisive.

Easy does it. Read. Learn. Focus on what you want to get out of Gay Dominance. And crucially, invest the time in understanding every aspect of your sub. All of this begins with top-notch communication and trust. Ensure you’re familiar with Risk Aware Consensual Kink. Then train your sub. Spank and restrain him. Set him some chores. And build from there. Always within agreed limits. Remember that one doesn’t find Dom Sex God status overnight. Hard work and ongoing self-reflection are essential. As is a constant dialogue with your sub. Then remember that you’re discovering one another. But first, you need to find him. Start by joining Gays.com today for free.