The 7 gay sex positions you need to know

It's only normal that gay love making will get lacklustre after a while, but shaking things up only takes some experimentation! Alex Hopkins explores seven of the best gay sexual positions to reinvigorate your sex life. Anyone for the Rusty Trombone?!

 

How easy it can be to fall into a stale sexual routine with our partners. Before we know it, the sexual joie de vivre of youth is replaced by lackluster games of Hide the Salami. You end up fucking in the most predictable and unfulfilling of gay sexual positions. Blame the business and boredom of everyday life. But that makes it all the more important to remain at the top of your game when it comes to anal acrobatics.
 

Gay love making: why shake it up?

The good news is that research shows that us gays are still hard at it. A recent study says that 30% of gay men in the US have had more than 50 sexual partners. Moreover, another US survey reveals that gay males orgasm 98% of the time. 

Impressive. On the surface, at least. But quantity doesn’t necessarily mean supreme satisfaction. Or mind-blowing queer sex positions. And alas, orgasms can be all too quick and disenchanting (or faked!).

So, shaking things up by playing with top and bottom roles and new gay sexual positions is vital. Extraordinary, experimental sex not only revitalises our relationships but teaches us lifelong lessons about our bodies. And who doesn’t want that? Here’s how to do it.

 

The 7 best gay sex positions you need to know

Whether you're getting down and dirty with your fella or someone new, these sexual positions will revolutionize your bedroom antics. What are you waiting for? 

 

1. The Rusty Trombone

All queer sexual positions start with fabulous foreplay. It’s utterly essential prior to packing the pipe. And playing the rusty trombone covers both oral outlets. Unrestrained rimming and horny handjobs. Simultaneously.

How you do it: Once comfortable on all fours, the bottom is ripe for rimming. But the top also gets his fill of thrills with this gay sex position. Because while they are receiving a thorough tongue lashing, the bottom extends his hands backwards to wank the top’s cock. Multitasking at its best!

Top tip: Plentiful sound effects of enjoyment are crucial with gay love making, but especially important with the Rusty Trombone as you’re not communicating face-to-face. So, let your squeals of passion play off one another. Build to a carnal crescendo, until you’re both sufficiently wet for the main event.

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2. Missionary 

The missionary position is the staple of heterosexual congress. But us enterprising gays have of course artfully adapted it for anal antics. Why? Because it gives unparalleled access to the bottom’s sacred G-spot.

How you do it: The bottom lies on his back. And the top gets, well, on top of the bottom. The sight of legs flailing in mid-air is nothing less than a turn-on and the perfect invitation for the top to pin them back. Or indeed stretch them wide apart for maximum entry.
 

“There’s something wonderfully tender about spooning as a form of gay love making. Why? Because the top can cuddle the bottom while pounding him at the same time.”

Top tip: The chief benefit of this type of gay love making is face-to-face communication. And this should be your focus: don’t just thrust away. Fully engage through sustained eye contact and maybe some dirty talk if he's into that. And in plenty of kissing, not to mention nurturing those nips. 

 

3. Doggy

Ready to howl in delight as you take a backdoor bludgeoning? Doggy is arguably the most common of gay sexual positions. 

How you do it: The bottom gets on all fours with his beautiful butt lined up for the top’s truncheon. And then the top takes the bottom from behind. Practical, powerful and infinitely pleasurable. 

 

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Top tip: This form of gay love making lets the top dive deep. Its beauty lies in its capacity for brutality. But not at the expense of affection. Tops, get tactile. Sprinkle the bottom’s back and neck with kisses while ramming it home. Let your hands stray to his cock and give him a magnificent milking as you're ploughing away.

 

4. Spooning

There’s something wonderfully tender about this form of gay love making. Why? Because the top can cuddle the bottom while pounding him at the same time. 

How you do it: The little spoon (the bottom) and the big spoon (the top) lie down side by side. The top delivers his delights from behind. While the bottom is facing away from him. Not unlike Doggy, but much more cuddly and romantic. 

Top tip: Get the spooning just right. This mode of gay love making is about fitting together. Perfectly. And comfortably. Tweak the position of the pelvis.

Spooning can be a tender gay sexual position to try out

 

5. Cowboy

Embrace the wicked wild west of sex. The cowboy position puts the bottom firmly in the driving seat. Hello, Power Bottoms!

How you do it: Now it’s the top’s turn to lay on his back and wait while the bottom straddles on top and lowers himself onto that pulsating prick. Of all gay sexual positions, this one is about the bottom seizing control. And the bucking broncho of a top had better brace himself. 

Top tip: Intimate eye contact is crucial. But if the bottom really wants to put the top in his place he can turn his back on him in a Reverse Cowboy move. A certain amount of aloofness in sex is invariably a turn-on. A kind of challenge. 

 

6. The back-up

This gay sexual position is about the bottom perfecting reverse parking. 

How you do it: The top sits on a chair and yanks his knees to his chest. However, his third limb will naturally be at full mast. And all aquiver as the bottom reverently reverses onto it.

 

“Shaking things up by playing with top and bottom roles and new gay sexual positions is vital. Extraordinary, experimental sex not only revitalises our relationships but teaches us lifelong lessons about our bodies.”

Top tip: This one’s ideal for getting kinky with a bit of gay bondage and restraints. Bottoms, tie the top to that chair. Tease him with a striptease before you assume the loveseat. And then grind until he blows!  

 

7. The pick-up

This one’s a porn favourite. And one of the hottest and best gay sexual positions. But be warned. It requires some serious strength and stamina on the top’s part.

How you do it: The top lifts the bottom off the ground while inside him and anchors him by the thighs. The bottom wraps his arms around the top’s shoulders, holding on tightly.

Top tip: The top needs to know his strength. No room for dodgy backs here! Start slowly and maybe use a wall for support. Get secure and safe. But then walk the bottom around the room as he clings on to you. He’ll be helpless and blissfully happy in his mighty man’s arms. 

 

The bottom line: sexual positions for gay men

You don’t have to be a porn star to enjoy the steamiest gay sexual positions. All that’s required from both tops and bottoms is a little ingenuity. And unrepentant exuberance.  

Experimentation is everything. Write your own sexual playbook by adapting tried and tested methods. Keep stretching those boundaries. And much more besides. And then relish the queue of legions of lustful lovers clambering to bang on your door. What works for you with gay love making? Let us know what we’ve missed by commenting below. •
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