There’s something wrong. You can’t quite put your finger on it, but that guy of your dreams has been acting strangely. Is your relationship on the way out? And, if so, how can you be sure? Alex

You’ve had your eye on someone for ages - and have finally plucked up the courage to ask them out. How do you make sure your first date is a dream and not a disaster, asks Alex

Group sex plays a part in many gay men’s relationships – but it can potentially cause problems within a partnership. Alex Hopkins investigates.

“I felt caught in between, discarded, a

How do a gay couple go about exploring fetishes with one another – and what impact can this have on their relationship, asks Alex Hopkins.

“Our main rule is we will not hurt one

Is it never too late to find love? Alex Hopkins talks to older gay men about their experiences of dating and finding love. 

I have once more survived the vilest day of the year:

How do you get back into the dating game after a long break? Gays.com writer Alex Hopkins talks about his gay dating experiences after a two-year gap. 
 
Of all the things that

You've started dating someone, but you've not yet had sex.  How long should you wait, and what do you need to consider, Asks Alex Hopkins. 

I was nervous, and this was unfamiliar

Would you have sex with your friends?  What do you stand to gain or lose with a fuck buddy, asks Alex Hopkins.
 
Oh, the perils of house hunting as a gay man. “I’m looking to live

It was taboo. For me it always had been. It was my boundary. That blurred dividing line between hedonism (which I loved) and self-destruction (which I constantly toyed with, but always pulled back

Do gay men place too much emphasis on being active or passive, asks Alex Hopkins.

The party was going quite well – until it happened; and I really should have seen it coming. There was

Alex Hopkins reminisces about his years spent in cruising grounds. Can intimacy be found in such places?

I’d read about the place in the gay city guide that I’d been furtively thumbing

In the age of gay marriage, are those who hookup for casual sex being ostracised? Is there a new conservatism at play, asks Alex Hopkins.

"The new normal": it’s an insidious little

Alex Hopkins shares his experiences of gay sex parties and what can you expect from a sex party or gay chill out today.

Ok, I’m going to risk sounding my age here - past it, 'an oldie'

Alex Hopkins spent years writing about chemsex on the gay scene.  Only later did his experiences give him a fresh perspective.

“Hey man, you want some Meph?” I don’t hesitate before

Is stating "no Blacks, no Asians" on a dating profile acceptable? No, argues Alex Hopkins.  It's sexual racism and needs to be challenged.

"I’m not racist. It’s my preference and I’ve

Gays.com writer Calvin slips on his Manolo Blahniks to go all Carrie Bradshaw. He wants to know: how do you know when you’ve found the love of your life?

After being single for ages,

Sex is readily available on the gay scene, but what happens when the type of sex we have gets in the ways of forming intimate relationships? Gays.com writer Alex Hopkins shares his experiences of the

Open relationships are common in the gay community.  For years Alex Hopkins dismissed them outright, but now, in his mid-thirties and single, he wonders whether he may be missing

Spanking the monkey, five knuckle shuffle, hand shandy: call it what you want, masturbation is something the majority of us guys do on a regular basis, but it still remains somewhat of a

The past few years have seen a huge proliferation in the number of gay porn studios shooting bareback films... but does watching such imagery increase the chances of us practising unsafe sex

If like me and countless others, you've doubted your boyfriend's fidelity and sneaked a peek at his smartphone or web browsing history and found something that confirmed your suspicions, you'll

Dating and relationships is a really complicated business for transgender people, especially transsexual people who decide to transition. We’re all over the map – many of us found a long-term

When I posted this question on the Gays.com Facebook page a while back, I was more than a tad surprised by the overwhelming response from our followers: the poll was about 90/10 in favour of