For most of my life before I was an adult, I felt as a multifaceted sexuality, I began dressing as a girl and presenting as a girl in 2nd grade. With an absent dad, the male attention compelled me. Family and friends knew me as a balance of feminine and masculine, both. At adult age my cross dressing went toward attracting the older black men like those I knew in 2nd grade, whom had filtered into the entirty of my fantasies, to create feelings of years before. The beginning years of looking to likely stayed only to my knowledge, A few years went by and I decided to speak openly, it wasn't the big deal that things seem today. My fantasy life remains the same naughty dream, but, seeking to realize them out in the world is not the same. Other extremely destructive habits were the accompaniment to the mission to gratify lustful figures, is a search long since ended. I feel as an incomplete version of my whole self, though presenting as a feminine person much of the time eases my spirit. I am interested in meeting, talking, listening and finding affinity, from here, as one may surmise, I'm not one to waste energy trying to "play hard to get."
Safer Sex
Protecing yourself and others
Safe is sexy
The last three decades have seen huge changes in how gay men tackle safer sex. And, mercifully, gone are the days when HIV was a death sentence.
HIV antiretroviral therapy (HART) now means that gay men diagnosed early with HIV can lead long and healthy lives.
Back in the 1980s and 1990s, condoms were seen and promoted as the predominant way to have gay safer sex.
Men who prefer safer sex
How can I practise gay safer sex?
Cheap, readily available and reliable, condoms remain one of the most popular ways of enjoying gay safer sex. Keep one in your wallet or grab one on the go for that unexpected hook-up.
Alongside condoms, regular testing for HIV and other STIs plays a vital role in protecting yourself and your partners. Visit your local clinic for sexual MOTs every three months.
Knowing your HIV status means you can also take informed choices about other gay safer sex options. Discuss these with your partners when negotiating safety within your relationship.
What roles do PrEP and an undetectable viral load play in gay safer sex?
PrEP (pre-exposure prophylaxis) is fast becoming one of the most trusted ways of enjoying gay safer sex and preventing HIV. The pill can be taken daily. But, before you start on PrEP you must confirm that you’re HIV-negative. You’ll also need a check-up on your kidney health.
The great news is that the use of PrEP has played a key role in decreasing HIV among men who have sex with men.
However, it’s important to note that PrEP doesn’t protect you from other STIs such as chlamydia, gonorrhea and syphilis. So, consider using condoms, too. And, again, get regularly tested for these infections.
Having an undetectable viral load is another method of practising gay safer sex. HART can suppress an HIV-positive person’s viral load to the extent that it is so low that an HIV test cannot detect it. Consequently, the virus can’t be passed on.
I think I’ve recently been exposed to HIV. What should I do?
Sometimes in the heat of the most rampant passions, we make compromises when it comes to safer sex. It happens. Don’t beat yourself up about it.
But, make sure you protect yourself after the event with PEP (post-exposure prophylaxis). Get to your sexual health clinic as soon as possible. And by this, we mean no later than 72 hours after you think you’ve been exposed to HIV.
A course of PEP lasts for four weeks, and it’ll stop HIV from replicating.
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