Sabotaging love - Love and Romance

[Deleted Member]

Does anyone ever feel as though they are sabotaging themselves when it comes to relationships?
I meet a modest people, but I always seem to find something wrong with them--possibly because I am just too picky to find someone I am really attracted to physically and mentally. I feel as though, in such a small town and school there aren't really any "options."
I know this sounds vain, but I would like someone's thoughts.

[Karrye_Flowers]

I dont really think you're being vain. You probably really dont have many options. I feel like that a lot.

[St****]

I think that when you meet the right person, you hardly notice any faults she has. You're not being too picky or vain- you just haven't met the girl who sweeps you off your feet. I wouldn't recommend trying to make something work because it's convenient or because you feel like you don't have any other good options.

[Deleted Member]

I know, I won't settle for something convenient. I actually tried giving someone a shot these past few months (not on a more than friends basis, but with the hope of one day moving to a level more than friends), but I realized I wasn't head over heels or anything for her and that I only wanted to be friends. So I told her and it was hard because she looked hurt.

I dunno. Sometime I just get lonely and I wish there were someone there, especially since so many people around me have boyfriends or girlfriends or just people they are intimate and close with.

Thanks for the replies too!

[Li****]

I tend to have the same problems... I have a really hard time finding someone that I am emotionally and physically attracted too. It's a complex lol

[St****]

Yeah, I know how you feel. I'm lonely a lot too. Hang in there

[Deleted Member]

I had the same problem... but I know that she is out there some where just have to stop being picky. The best thing anyone ever told me was...."Stop looking and you will find".

[Crystal_Simms]

that is really true Danielle! it always seems once u stop looking it come right at you out of nowhere like a u run into a brick wall LOL i tell a lot of my friends that i never looked for "love" before some how it just comes to me and if i dont like the girl then i wont date her simple as that but god i hate to see the hurt looks on girls faces! 1. it turns me on 2. it makes me sad because the last thing i wanted to do was hurt them