how do you find a girl if your not able to go to bars and your still in school - Love and Romance

[Kearney_Rodger]

well i need a little help guys iam still in high school and iam only 16 so iam not able to go to bars and clubs and stuff like that how do i find a girlfriend if most people in school are scared to come out and cant go to clubs cause iam under-age guys little help please thanks.xx

[De****]

Yeah, I have that problem too

My school is like predominantly white conservative Dx

[Deleted Member]

I think many lesbians have that issue. I am in pharmacy school at Auburn University. I just moved here about 7 months ago. There are no gay bars so I have no idea how to find girls here. It also doesn't help that I look straight. If you figure out the solution shout it out to me girl.

[De****]

XDD you DO look straight!

Auburn, in like Alabama?

[Deleted Member]

do you have the gay yellow pages in your area? Have you tried looking into getting a womens travelor book. It tells hot spots to go in every city and restaruants that are gay friendly and so on. You can try amazon.com for this book.

[De****]

Whoa, that is AWESOME. I did not know any of those existed. XD

[Deleted Member]

you know when I first moved to the va.bch./hampton roads area, I skimmed the telephone book and found a gay hot line.. From there they gave me the names of places to go and churches, and restaurants that were gay friendly. If you contact the Washington Blade ( a gay newspaper in Washington,DC) that could hook you up with some more stuff.Try the gay churches, they help make you feel wonderful in such a time when your world is upside down and youll find loving people to accept you.

[Ashlynn_O's***]

Yeah, I have the same problem. It also doesn't help that my grandparents aren't all that supportive of my sexuality, either. But whatever. . .

I've. . . Never heard of the "Gay Yellow Pages" before. :\ And sadly? I wouldn't be able to get my hands on it just yet. No credit card, no job, and therefore no money. So . . . Yeah.

[Deleted Member]

look into your local telephone directory for information services, sometimes the local mental health facility has references to places and sometimes runs groups of ***agers that are trying to figure things out

[Ne****]

Where I live we got the gay village, soo many gay peoples are there usually, but I tend not to go, even if it's really close to where I live, because I don't want to head there alone. Otherwise, id just kidnap one of my straight friend to head there, but I would feel a lil bad for him/her. Otherwise, it's near downtown, soo many peoples are there, there a clubs and such. Soo I guess, the best way is to find out about what you can find in your own city. But to have the drive and go there too, im quite shy even if I have the guts to head there. Teri gave a good advice to find out this, didn't know something like that existed too, here in Montreal we got a "Fugues" free magasine to know some places to go out at. But for a ***, it's harder because most of the places are for adults.

[Deleted Member]

Yes Devin...Auburn Alabama. I know I do...but this is how I like to dress and look. Just doesn't help me get approached by lesbians...that's a bummer.

[Ashlynn_O's***]

I don't see why, Keri. Girls just generally need more confidence and hope. After all, you never know unless you try. :x

Also, I shall try that. Looking in the phone book, I mean. Thank you.

[Deleted Member]

Ihope you find what you are looking for from looking in the phone directory. Try the local mental health facility too. They do offer groups of ***agers trying to find their own way. Get on here and look for the gay yellow pages

[Ashlynn_O's***]

Hmmm. . . Just to clarify, "on here" being. . . On this website?

Also, where would the local mental health facility be located in the Phone book? I. . . Don't really know where to look. :x This is probably due to the fact that I don't use them (phone books) that much, if at all, unless told to.

[Deleted Member]

When I was looking in the phone book I looked up gay Hotline when I was in Va. bch. area. Also look for a community based mental health society, maybe under the county name. There is one here where i live that has some kind of group for ***agers
the gay yellow pages are on-line.

[Ashlynn_O's***]

Ohhh okay. Thanks.

[Deleted Member]

you're welcome and let me know how it goes

[Ashlynn_O's***]

I shall. :3

[Boluwatife_Cardoso]

am back

[Deleted Member]

what happened?

[Kristin_Turner]

it's a tough deal no doubt. i'm pretty ballsy about approaching women if i think they're cute. i figure out at that point if there's any vibe there. Even though I'm very girly and don't look gay (whatever the fuck that's supposed to mean) i get hit on enough. maybe it has something to do with the fact that I live in DC; substantial gay population. i don't frequent gay events or groups. I just don't like to be identified with ANY group. I guess what you might need to do is start dressing like a boy. JK. Seriously, though just put yourself out there. If you see a girl who's attractive strike up a conversation. Worst that can happen is there's no vibe at all. I've found this isn't so bad. Most people tend to be nice.

[Deleted Member]

wow, you are gutsy! i have a hard time figuring out if someone is gay. They say I dont have any gaydar. Well, i wish I had better gaydar so I can find some wonderful women to chat with or whatever is on the plate later.

[Ne****]

Well, some girls tend to wear the gay flag colors on theirself, either a bracelet or a dogtag. Ive found it easy to know this way, but many doesn't wear anything to make it think that way. Otherwise, they look more butch, but I would find it harder is she's more femme and girly. Why ? Because im a tomboy and always were, soo I tend not to see and be attracted to a girly women that much. And I can't really find out, is she's to much girly, if she prefer guys or girls. Then, peoples don't think im gay, and it's usually mens who approach me, bleh ! I wish women would insted of them, since I turn them down in a way or another. Either way, we have to be gutsy in some ways, even more when you want a girlfriend by your side.

[Deleted Member]

believe me I know what you mean. I like to be with a woman who is a woman and there is no doubt about it. She is beautiful inside and out no matter what she wears. She just carries herself well. And I ache to know her.

[Deleted Member]

I find that hard too, the only girlfriend i ever had at my school turned gay because of me, that may be a compliment to me, hmmm :3

I find that girls in the emo/indie/scene scene tend to be more open to girls.
But if you dont like that, patience.
Find a nice girl, treat her reaaaal good, and she may realize how into you she is.
Sounds like a cliche movie but it happened for me